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Thoughts on Touch

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WHO/WHAT TAUGHT YOU TO FEEL GOOD?

* hiking/working out, feeling my body move

* one night stands (no pressure = freedom)

* my binder

* queer community at cc

* Relations at CC and the vibrator i won from their raffle!

* queer friends having queer conversations

* work (when it feels good)

* my shower head

* parts of porn focused on the clit

* Myself by buying a vibrator

* talking about it !

* disability justice!

* when i learned how to say what i like!

* my mom telling me sex was supposed to feel good

* FEMMES

* Saying no and being respected in that

* the first person i really loved

* my first big CRUSH

* friends !

* learning to throw away my bras

* parts of porn that are lowkey awkward and make me feel a little closer to the actors

* Telling my story and being validated

* the internet

* pleasure activism <3

* the first scenes in the l word

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DESCRIBE HOW HORNY FEELS PHYSICALLY

* validated

* anxious, lustful, tight, overwhelmed, focused

* so distracting

^!!!

*Like putting your hand in sand and letting it go through your fingertips

*wanting to be naked

* dreamlike

* desires

* sweaty

^yes

* something scary/but exciting

* all the time

* Her leg between my thighs

* wet

* vibrations of your whole body

* like a warm hug thats also electric

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WHAT TOUCHES YOU/WHAT IS TOUCHING TO YOU? (physical, emotional, sexual touch)

* playing with my clit

* putting on makeup and feeling in my skin

* using she/they

* rain

* head on my shoulder

* her fingers/her tongue/her body

* NOT BEING MISGENDERED

* his fingers

* humidity and kudzu!

* her touch

* music

* its cheesy but roses

* big big hugs!!

* touching my hair

* @gramparents

* kissing cuties

* moving my hand up his thigh or him moving his hand up mine

* reflecting on a relationship i had with someone much older, nonsexual but v ambiguous

* queer people holding hands

* being called sir

* when someone describes me accurately

* swimming in a lake

* going outside and sitting in silence

* when someone is reminded of me

* going to virtual events with my grandma <3

* when my mother sends me pictures of the sky at dusk

* eye contact (can be so sexual)

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what is your euphoria?

* dancing!!!!!! while drunk

* falling in love with the label of disability

* Labeling myself as gay

* sitting outside under the sun and having no responsibilities

* wanting to be and being productive

* a good fire

* Making money from my creative outlet and having people like what I make

* feeling included

* When I get really interested in a topic and get to tell my loved ones all about it

* after working out in a ~cute~ fit

* not being manic

* loving my body (only happens occasionally, but always really exciting)

* long hugs

* that flow state when everything somehow just clicks/makes sense/is good

* flat chest !

* medication

* wearing a big colorful headband for the first time since i was 14

* any slow burn lovers book

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WHAT/WHO DO YOU WANT?

* def to have an overwhelming crush / become infatuated with someone else / to be in awe of them… this year got me feeling pretty lonely

^and for them to like u back (or at least for me)

* Realizing I’m gay

* myself

^hard to feel sometimes but big respect

* respect, being valued and deemed as important

* chemistry between someone

* a hot sweaty stranger in a club/party/concert

* boys :P

* dick

* my crush that i always see on campus

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describe the relationship between your desires and your actions (how does the way you like to be touched relate to the way you like to touch)

* i like to give head more than i like receiving it but maybe thats cos guys can’t get me off as good as myself or my vibe

* my vibrator = my desires + my actions

* I like being the top in a dom way but whenI’m being touched in a very conservative and vanilla (for lack of a better word) way

* I dont like being touched but i like touching her how she wants to be touched

* like please grab my ass

* deepthroating is fun because its so easy to make them cum

* scared to initiate touch/be vulnerable but always grateful when someone else does… learning how to get over this lol

* whispers & breath in my ears

* TOP

* trying to be a major dom, failing, being goofy, having fun w it

* submissive dominant (i can’t explain it but both at the same time)

* i feel strongly and everything is big but like to touch how my partner wants to be touched

* always touching people how I want to be I guess sometimes I should just tell them what I want

* sex in weird places!

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WHAT/WHO DO YOU WANT TO TOUCH/FEEL?

* the sweaty walls of my middle school during a dance that haunts my dreams

* all of my friends i haven’t seen in so long

* Last January/February in 2020

* the hand rails on a bus, I want to rise on a busy busy bus with so many people

* hands

* the soil, i want to repot my plants

* ice water

* my fidgets that help me concentrate as a adhd/disabled person

* tongues!!

* all of my friends w whom ive never been able to have physically intimate relationships

* i want to dance w someone and put my hands around their waist :’)

* sweaty strangers

* The younger versions of my cousins and myself, or at least be able to go back to that body I was in, and that time and space when we were together

* your belt loops

* I want to touch the time. I want to crawl around in it and linger and be help by it

* I also want to be able to like physically touch/inhabit time… like be present with it in that way??

* sand

* MOSS

* a nice butt!

* The feeling that the book “song of Achilles” gave me

* all of my friends

* okay but sometimes dick

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WHAT IS THE LACK OF HORNY/TOUCH?

* a friendship breakup

* having withdrawal after forgetting to take my meds

* unwanted attention

* being misgendered

* the feeling i had my first time having sex… w/ a man i didn’t know :(

* period cramps

* quarantined without my vibrator

* realizing i am manic

* instagram posts that don’t get likes (ik I shouldn’t care but I do)

* older man making a gross comment to my friend at the pool. literally disgusting!!!!!

* bad habits

* realizing people are talking about me and not in a nice way

* the R word ! makes me want to go into a ball and leave this universe

* being in a fight over long distance

* when you’re feeling yourself & your fit but no one says anything affirming LOL

* self judgement

* people talking to me when i dont want to talk

* the word “should”, “should have”

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HOW DO YOU BALANCE verbal AND nonverbal TOUCH/COMMUNICATION?

* a verbal yes with eye contact is so hot

* look for enthusiasm

* phone sex, when good, is really good

* checking in!

* i don’t like hugs to talking is more of my love language in a way

* sexii eye contact… and checking in if it doesn’t feel reciprocal in any way!

* verbal communication is hard to initiate sometimes

* i love friendships that are based in mutual presence rather than conversation

^true - always nice when u feel so comfortable to be in silence w/ someone else !!

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Who politicized the power of you feeling good?

* adrienne maree brown

* validation and queer podcasts

* no queer role models

* Flower art that is obviously a vulva

* my mom lmao uh oh

* Peggy Orenstein (author of girls and sex)

* Vibrators

* Daria from that 90s cartoon

* dr kumar lmao

* Candace Owens

* attentive partners

* instagram sex education femmes

* intersectional feminism

* being disabled, me being happy is political

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What kind of touch makes you feel grounded in your body

* yummy?

* back rubs

* someone grabbing my MF waist!!!!!

* swimming in a lake and holding your breath underwater

* walking in my combat boots :)

* hands on my waist

* walking barefoot :P

* ASMR

* tight hugs after i cry

* playing with my hair

* Grass

* hugs from grandma

* i feel grounded when dick is inside me lol

* also being fingered (when it’s good)

* fidgeting

* i dont know

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WHAT MAKES YOU HORNY FOR LIFE/WHAT TURNS YOU ON THT ISN’T SEXUAL?

* tiktoks that go into depth on obscure things

* when they empty their pockets … you know they’re ~settling in~

* seeing my little spider plant babies growing under their big ole spider parent

* when a US team wins in the olympics

* SUNSHINE

* when i take my meds

* making a pretty meal

* puppies…? cute agression LOL

* feeling confident in a bomb outfit

* Rain

* standing in freezing water (esp a river) for a long while really connects me to the essence of my being lol

* when i meet other disabled people and feel less alone

* Well my roommate made brownies today and it makes me so grateful for life and people

* car rides with the window down blasting music

* Doing my makeup

* a breazy morning afternoon

* when i eat with friends

* weed

* the ocean

*shrooms

* accessibility!!!!!!!!!!!!

* trader joes flowers